I'm a youth who was in foster care. I know what it's like to meet with social workers and have conversations about my future. I think that planning permanency and adoption is a good thing because it gives youth a sense of stability and belonging. Permanency is important because it sets the ground work for the youth's future; it sets up a permanent family life and also might help to make sure that positive outcomes are possible for the youth in the long run. Here are some suggestions I have for people who work with youth in care or adoptees!
I believe that permanency is very important.
When I was at my all time low
I just wanted to fly away like a blackbird.
I was creeping death,
I needed a Courtesy Call.
I knew that someday I'll be on the Stairway to
Soon I will find a person, they will say,
"Oh starlight, don't you cry. We're going to find
A place where we belong"
They will be my Saviour, I'll know that
Nothing else matters, and I'll be living in
So Open your eyes, and see that If
Everyone Cared, and they gave a
- They are unwanted
- They are sexually promiscuous
- They are too old to be adopted
- They do not know how to love and interact with others
- All foster parents treat their foster children unfairly
- Incapable of getting a job
- All kids in care have many counsellors in their lives
- They will all grow up to live on the streets
- They are all thieves/criminals
- They are all angry and dramatic
- They are very smart people, even if their grades don't show it all the time
- They are ve
Sarah Groothedde had been in foster care since she was an infant, bouncing from home to home and suffering abuse and neglect.
As a young teenager, she asked her social worker to find her a family. The worker told her she was too old for adoption, and that it would be “against the rules” and a waste of resources to try. “All I ever wanted was a home and a family,” says Groothedde. “But it wasn’t in the cards for me.”
Earlier this year, my wife and I started getting serious about the adoption process. My first question was, “How long will the adoption process take?” As a financial advisor, my next question was, “What are the associated costs?”
Each family’s cost will vary depending on their adoption path (international, domestic newborn, or Ministry of Children and Family Development). No matter which path you take, there will be some costs. The reality of children, and adoption, is that the costs associated with the process are only a small portion of the total funds needed to raise a child.
Claire's 10-year-old son was adopted from a Russian orphanage when he was 19 months old. Her other son, Ethan, joined their family just over a year ago, when he was seven. Ethan was born in Canada and entered government care at age two. In this 12-part series, Claire shares the "fast and furious learning" that she and her family experienced when they adopted an older child.
The ugly truth is that I thought I was going to lose my mind in the first six months after Ethan joined our family.
Why teens think teen adoption is a great idea:
Parents who are willing to wait for personal gratification.
Attachment with teens can take longer and may look very different than attachment with younger children.
Someone with a great sense of humour, patience, tolerance, and adaptability.
Self explanatory if you know teens.
People who can see beyond the rebellious teen to the blossoming young adult that they are becoming.
Are you able to quietly nurture the child that is still crying out for love and attention?
As awareness and recruitment around teen adoption grows, hope is on the rise for youth who were once considered "unadoptable." We talked with Wendy's Wonderful Kids recruiter Anne Melcombe about how she looks outside the box to find families for the unique kids on her caseload.
Some 1,100 former wards of the Crown enter adulthood yearly. What can be done to improve their chances for success?
You’re 19, officially an adult. Happy birthday. Now get out of the house.
As parents, few of us would take such a brutal approach. Yet in our role as citizens that is exactly the style we adopt toward teenagers “in care” of the Crown -- for whom the government is, institutionally speaking, their legal “parent.”